Anonymous asked: i had a best friend since 2nd grade. we went out once freshman year (i'm a senior now), he stopped talking to me because he went through some tough times and shut most everyone out. when he came back, we became best friends again and then we started falling for each other hard, we went out for eight months. things ended really badly. tons of fighting, miscommunication, and weird gray areas. we still hook up but we never talk. i miss him so much. what do i do? i still love him so much.

You should stop hooking up with him. Because you hooking up with him has caused your “best-friend-ship” to spiral into something that’s put you both in an awkward position with mixed feelings. What you should do is definitely stop hooking up with him. Try and see if you can work up getting your friendship back, and ONLY that. See how that goes. If he doesn’t respond or doesn’t want to talk to you, it means it’s time to let things go. Sure it may be hard, but at the same time, there will always be something better down the road that will make you happy. There is nothing wrong with trying. There is nothing wrong with getting shut down, either. If you do get shut down, it means it wasn’t meant to be. But honestly, I would try to just focus on the friendship more than having a relationship. Maybe is he is to bring it up about wanting more than a friendship, explain to him how you felt before when things sunk. Tell him that if you two are to try it, that you want things to be different. Never be afraid to speak your opinions nor say what you want and feel. I hope that this helped.