Anonymous asked: You play in a band, so answer this for me. how do I gain more confidence in my musical ability? I want enough confidence to play in a band but I feel like I "suck" at my instrument even when I get encouragement. do you ever feel like that?

I constantly feel like I’m not good enough to be in a band. Watching other drummers that have much more talent and ability than I do always puts me down. But then I just tell myself, practice, practice, practice. Just because I’m not 100% on my drumming ability, doesn’t mean that I suck. I honestly think you should start a band. Practice a lot. Don’t be afraid to show people what you can do. Whether you’re not 100% or not. When I started Cowardice, we were a completely different band. I didn’t know how to play drums for the life of me. At least not in the style and genre. After playing and practicing this type of music for almost 5 years, I’m much more confident. Not everyone is going to like the way you play, but don’t let that bother you. Do what you love too do. If you have the encouragement from others, they obviously have the confidence that you are talented enough to go some where. Everything is always worth a shot. :) 

Anonymous asked: I've recently started dating this guy. This nice, sweet, funny guy. Everything is going fantastic and yet I'm scared. I'm scared that he's just leading me on to screw me over like every other guy I've dated or had a "thing" with. I've felt myself try and find things wrong with him or reasons for me to just stop talking to him but I can't.I don't want things to end with him but I keep telling myself that "i'm bored with him" or something else but I'm not bored. I'm really happy. What should I do?

I think the reason you’re scared is because you actually have something worth staying committed too. You have someone who is willing to make you happy. Who is nice and funny and is obviously making you extremely happy. If you’ve ever been screwed over in the past, it’s understandable that you’re feeling this way. But you need to tell yourself not too. Sure, keep your walls up, but don’t automatically assume that every guy that wants to be with you is going to fuck you over and hurt you in the end. Not every guy is like that. A lot of girls need to understand that just because you’ve been hurt before, doesn’t mean it will happen again. Not all guys are the same, that’s for sure. I wouldn’t worry about anything until maybe you see signs that things are getting a bit rough between the two of you. Then I would stand back a bit and not necessarily expect anything bad, but be prepared to have your guard up in case something does happen. I’m sure everything will be fine. Honestly. 

Anonymous asked: How do you tell your boss that they are way to rude to you and yell at you because of others mistakes.

I’m glad you asked me this. I’ve had the same issue before and this is exactly what I did. I asked my boss if we could talk. I told her in the nicest way possible; “Look, in no way am I trying to disrespect you or be a smart ass, but I’d like to tell you how I feel. I don’t appreciate being yelled at for other mistakes made by my employees. I also don’t like being treated unfairly. I would like it if you would kindly talk to me about things, or ask me my side or for some of my input on things. It isn’t always me making the mistakes around here.” And hopefully he/she will understand. Its worked with my boss plenty of times. Hopefully it does with yours. They appreciate it when you can be up-front and honest about how you’re feeling. 

Anonymous asked: I am a sex addict. This isn't a joke or anything. I have triggers, and when someone does one I fuck them in some way or another.

To be honest, I can’t even help you with this other than tell you that you need to seek some professional help for this. Or try telling yourself negative things when someone pushes your “buttons” or whatever. Kind like a self discipline type of deal. Other than that…I can’t really help you….. 

filthymoon asked: a) i'm hungry b)where can I download music

a) eat some food, silly steph. b) i have no idea. i’m having that problem myself since everything has been taken down.

Anonymous asked: I've found myself attracted to girls for awhile now but I'm not sure if I should act on this attraction. I've never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend before and I just don't really know what to do. I mean, I don't know how I would even go about asking a girl out and I'm so afraid that I'll be judged by my friends/family (not that they're homophobic or anything, because they certainly aren't)

This is honestly going to be a little bit tough for me to answer. I don’t see a problem with acting on your attraction to woman what so ever. I’m  bi-sexual, but for some reason I’m drawn more to girls than I am guys. It took me months before I told my girlfriend that I liked her, etc. Just because you haven’t dated a man or woman, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try. There are plenty of people out there who are just like you wondering the same thing. Don’t ever be afraid to get shut down. Don’t be afraid to open up and admit how  you feel. As far as asking a girl out.. If a girl starts to show interest in you, then swoop in and ask, “hi. i was wondering if you would like to go out sometime?” and see what goes from there. You never know what’s going to happen unless you try. Now as for the being judged by your family thing.. I’m not very good with that. I was judged quite hard by my family only because I’ve grown up in a christian home surrounded by the things that tell me not to be gay. That still shouldn’t stop you. I’m in the process of possibly asking my girlfriend to marry me. I don’t care if I am judged by others around me. As long as I am happy, that’s all that matters to me, and that’s all that should matter to you. Your happiness should always come first. 

Anonymous asked: If I find myself thinking negative thoughts about my significant other, like "I'm annoyed and mad at you", more than i'm thinking positive thinks and "I love you", should I still be with the person? sorry if this is worded weird.

Of course you should stay with that person. My girlfriend and I tell each other things like that all the time. Doesn’t mean that we don’t love one another. Sometimes relationships make you annoyed at each other. Time apart is sometimes a good thing to try. It helps. Getting away from each other for a bit, or maybe just talking things out about why you’re annoyed or mad. Then in the future you know not to do that again.

Anonymous asked: I always seem to be in the middle of my friends dramas. I find myself joining in the complaints they have of one another. I don't want to hear it anymore and they will be offended if i say that I don't want to hear it. I try saying it nicely but it never seems to work.

Welcome to my life. I am constantly in the middle of my friends drama/problems. The way I deal with it is simple. Tell them how you feel. Never be afraid to tell them that their situation and argument isn’t needed. If they get mad at you for not wanting to hear it nor be involved, then that is their own problem. A friend should never want you to involve yourself in something that doesn’t involve you. It’s unnecessary. Unless your name is brought up in the matter, it’s not your problem. Being there for your friends is one thing, but putting yourself into a problem that doesn’t concern you is another. Simply tell your friends you wish to not be involved because you don’t want to choose sides nor piss anyone off and lose a friend. There is nothing wrong with being the person who helps out constantly, but it’s wrong for them to expect you to always be involved.

sorry for not answering lately. i’m currently going through my own family problems right now and don’t have much time. i promise i will answer them all when i get a chance. hopefully you all understand.

Anonymous asked: even if you love someone, and they claim to love you back, how do you know when to leave them?

If you love someone..You shouldn’t want to leave. When it’s time for you to leave or move on from someone, you’ll know. It’s not a matter of “how do you know.” Certain situations/actions/problems will help you come to that conclusion. You should never be looking for a reason to leave someone. Love is something powerful and something that a lot of people spend almost all of their lives looking for. If you are currently in love, I wouldn’t advise you to leave it. If there is something else going on such as mixed feelings about your relationship, then you need to seriously sit down and figure out what you want from it.